Are your emotions and fears a barrier to success in business and life? What if there is a way to shift the limiting beliefs about yourself into empowered beliefs – enabling you to move through the fear and resistance that may have held you back from living the life of your dreams? Good news, the answer is to develop Emotional Mastery.
How did you get to this place of fear and emotional discomfort?
From a very young age, you were deeply conditioned to behave in conforming ways that mask your true essence and create deep-seated beliefs in your “unworthiness” including:
- Fear of rejection
- Fear of abandonment
- Fear of being judged harshly
- Fear of being considered stupid
- Fear of being considered ugly
- Fear of speaking your truth
- Fear of being misunderstood
- Fear of being alone
- Fear of homelessness
And so, from infancy, you adjust, you compensate, and you behave in ways that create a safety zone of approval:
- the “good girl”
- the “know-it-all”
- the “cool one”
- the “comic”
- the “player”
- the “pretty one”
- the “athlete”
The list goes on, and these identities work until something goes wrong. These “masks” build a protective wall around your heart to keep you safe. I see these beliefs in my Emotional Mastery Coaching clients who come to me with fears and protective masks.
We as a collective consciousness are awakening to the awareness that we have been ruled and manipulated by fear for too long – both within us and by others who would use that fear to manipulate us as a means for them to gain power. We are waking up to our connection with our loved-based higher consciousness and taking back the power that we ignorantly gave away – to these fearful aspects of ourselves, to loved ones, or to “leaders” of our institutions.
You Got Triggered
Your relationships, be it to intimate partners, family, employers, leaders, money and so on – often trigger your emotional reactions. It can be as if these emotions overtake you, often creating responses which you project onto others. You blame them for provoking you then later are made to feel ashamed or guilty by another party or by self-blame.
These triggered “reactions” are gifts highlighting emotions long held within you that need in-depth examination. Your experiences long thought to be emotionally resolved can be reactivated, even when that experience was years ago. Traumatic experiences leave a cellular imprint that continues to manifest as excessive fears, attractions, and desires until cleared.The Power of Your Presence - To suddenly see that you are or have been attached to your pain can be quite a shocking realization. The moment you realize this, you have broken the attachment.Click To Tweet
Why Are You Attracted to Certain Partners or Addictions?
Beliefs which are merely repetitive thought now held as “true” – become ingrained in your mental body by your parents, teachers, employers and other “leaders” but ultimately create stress as you strive to conform.
Ultimately, these beliefs, often contradictory voices running in your mind or repressed in your subconscious, create “patterns” that sabotage your relationships, health, and finances and you feel helpless to change.
These “aspects” become like a ball and chain you are dragging behind you, draining your energy and inadvertently triggering responses in others that repel them from you even as you want to heal the relationship. The time has come to identify and release these outdated “aspects” of yourself and move beyond them to attain freedom, healthy relationships, higher levels of growth and compassion for others.
You are often able to see the fearful, younger “aspects” operating in another but it is hard to see your own “picture in the frame.” Identifying and transmuting this deep cellular conditioning requires putting the intellect aside while you examine your belief systems on all levels, discovering where you might be susceptible to world beliefs that are not aligned with the man or woman you are now.
You Can Develop Emotional Mastery
Emotional Mastery is easier than you think but it takes practice until these long-repressed parts of you are highlighted and “re-parented” by the wise, healthy adult that is who you are today. Simple awareness that the fearful part of yourself that is being “triggered” will start to break the cycle. Use the steps below as guidance to practice breaking the destructive cycle of emotional reactivity and defensiveness to find peace.
Relax your body. Take three deep breaths and let all tension go. Relax and breath again. Now, think about a situation in your life that is triggering you emotionally.
1. Connect with your wise, adult self. Describe the best part of being your current age.
2. Look inside yourself and ask “Who inside is uncomfortable?” Identify the age and circumstances of your orphan. Freeze frame the scene and nurture your orphan.
3. Ask what else they are upset or confused about and soothe them. You are now re-parenting your inner child.
4. Explain your current life and invite the orphan to join you in it. Collapse time and bring them forward.
5. Set appropriate roles and expectations. You are defining yourself as the adult and them as the child who can relax.
6. Check for relief.
Now acknowledge your ability to stay more centered. Keep practicing as you next become triggered.
Do you need more? I am a Certified Soul Integration (TM) Facilitator, and my clients typically experience immediate relief from painful or uncomfortable feelings after just one session. With multiple sessions, they begin to gain Emotional Mastery, knowing how to identify negative thought patterns and break the disruptive cycle before it gains momentum.
Contact me today. I’d love to speak with you and help you start living the life of your dreams.